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In search of a real boy-The long road home.

2008 Like most parents I had excitedly booked a block of first swimming lessons for Evan. I had been pre warned by other mums  that there was a long waiting list so had put his name down over a year … Continue reading

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Memories

Tonight I was told the head teacher of the local village school that refused to take Evan as a 5 year old is retiring. I always said I would write to her when Evan was successful to tell her how … Continue reading

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Leap of Faith

In a few weeks time Evans Primary education will be over and a new chapter in his life will begin. Although he won’t be in an end of year play or experience a leavers assembly. January 2009 As I stood reading the letter, my throat … Continue reading

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EUREKA!

August 2008 On a rainy August day in 2008  Evan and I attended our first ‘autism friendly’ activity. A picnic in the park arranged by the autism support worker. Evan was 4 years old and I  vividly remember at that time every aspect of daily life was … Continue reading

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I have a dream.

It is over 3 years since I removed Evan from School and started to home educate him. In October 2011 it became clear his mainsteam placement had become totally unsuitable. He attended a very small village school with only 40 pupils on role, he had a detailed statement of special educational … Continue reading

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Bouncing back.

  Evan has now settled brilliantly into the new house and appears to be extremely happy. I still bare the emotional scars from our first night and  have been on a rollercoaster of internal turmoil since, trying to make sense of my feelings. I can’t lie. I felt … Continue reading

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Moving on.

I knew moving  would be hard but nothing could have prepared me for the absolute heartbreak I would feel watching Evan unravel on his first night in the new house. Everything was going well until it dawned on him at bed time … Continue reading

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The Angel of the North

From having never seen the Angel of the North in person yesterday I found myself hurtling past her for the sixth time in 10 days. I am the first to admit I am not the best driver in the world and my Fiat Panda … Continue reading

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Go tell it on the mountain

When it comes to Autism, I have always prided myself on celebrating the good. Revelling in every achievement, sharing each success whilst omitting details of the hard work  it takes from us both to sometimes just get through the day. Hiding  the hard stuff and minimalizing … Continue reading

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Above the Clouds

Sometimes I get to look at life above the clouds. As an autism parent it doesn’t happen that often so when it does it is nothing short of magical. A real life cloud inversion Underneath the cloud it can be grey and cold, by … Continue reading

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Mine is the Glory

Tonight I was busy cleaning out the cupboard where I store most of our home education resources. I was sorting through the bulging draws filled with various pieces of paper, pictures, articles, and worksheets trying to make some space. Today I’d purchased a shiny … Continue reading

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Great Expectations.

Another year has gone by, much has been achieved and many mountains have been climbed. 2013 had many high points for Evan although the behind the scenes hard work, preparation, heartache and effort he has to put in just to achieve the everyday things that we take … Continue reading

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One dog and his boy

Having heard that animals were good for children with autism we bought Evan a puppy. That was two and a half years ago. I never could have dreamed they would develop such an incredible friendship.

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The Nativity

On Monday 17th December 2006 at 2pm I was sat in a room at the Child Development Centre with Evans pediatrician. His period of assessment had come to an end and it was time to hear their findings. I had … Continue reading

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Sunshine with Laughter

   It was a beautiful September morning when Evan and I set off early on our walk.We stopped at Sprinkling tarn for breakfast before heading up to Allen crags and Glaramara. As we were leaving the summit of Glaramara and I slipped and badly … Continue reading

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04.27am

It’s Saturday, almost 4.30am, I am sat drinking my 2nd coffee of the day. Evan has a  swimming competition this morning,his bag is ready by the door his clothes carefully laid out, his water bottle packed. We don’t need to leave the house … Continue reading

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Table for One

“That one” Evan was pointing at a Birthday cake in the shape of a caterpillar in the bakery aisle of Morrison’s. We had already visited Booths,COOP and Sainsbury’s on our search This year reaching double figures he was determined to try … Continue reading

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September baby

As I walked through the park with the dog I spotted them. Three local 9-year-old boys happily playing I scouted for adults, saw none. I realised…. it’s happened. His peers have earned their wings and are flying. Over and over again through … Continue reading

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Mind the Gap.

Running as fast as he could, with me in hot pursuit, Evan headed across the grass towards the elderly couple seated on the park bench..before I could reach him he took a sandwich from the picnic box by their feet, sniffed … Continue reading

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The future

Yesterday I went to the Autism show in Manchester.  I set off from home at 7.30am and headed to the train station. Looking forward to  rare “me” day I settled into my seat with a coffee and a copy of trail magazine…..bliss. Having … Continue reading

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Being Evan’s Mum

A 19 hour day that included walking 10 mountains over 27km for charity as fast as I could to be back in time to make a 90 mile round trip to a swimming gala, where I was under pressure to sit in the same … Continue reading

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Falling through the cracks….

Things are good..no actually..things are great! Evan is happy, relaxed and coming on in leaps and bounds. Over the last 2 years he has achieved more than I could have ever dreamed of. But at what price. I started home schooling Evan … Continue reading

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Hula Hoops in Wales

Holding his Welsh/English dictionary in one hand and gently touching the shiny red paper of the crisp packet with the other Evan declared ” As I suspected Hula Hoops only these are almost certainly Welsh!” We have just returned from … Continue reading

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H2o

For as long as I can remember Evan has loved water. I took him to mother and toddler swimming from about 4 months old he loved it and would scream when it was time to leave. By the time Evan was … Continue reading

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Tiger Mothers

I might be described as outgoing and enthusiastic with an ability to laugh at myself. I can seem  strongly opinionated but have never felt the urge take my fight further than a friendly debate. I am naturally a shy person. I like to keep my head down,go with the … Continue reading

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Autism.

Today someone asked ” how does Evans autism affect him?” It was a very refreshing question and one that is very rarely,if ever, asked. In short, the answer is:It affects everything he does all of the time. It is an invisible disability- … Continue reading

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Insult to injury

When your child is diagnosed with a lifelong developmental disability like autism at 3 years old you do not think for one second that getting your child’s needs met educationally will be any problem at all.  Nothing could be further … Continue reading

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Snow.

When Evan was about 4 years old it snowed properly here for the first time. He was already diagnosed with autism but I had no idea he might not like snow.. It was coming down but not really settling..I heard it was … Continue reading

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Sleepless in Cumbria

From a very tiny baby Evan didn’t really sleep, he seemed to catnap or rest and when he did sleep it was only for very short periods.  He was always a very content  baby and I struggle to remember him ever crying or making … Continue reading

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Celebrating difference.

On Christmas day as I stood on top of a mountain with Evan and Scruffy I felt pretty triumphant. It has taken several years to get it right,trying different approaches that work for us.  Finding the confidence to do what I feel is right for … Continue reading

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Christmas..

I don’t really know how to explain how I feel about Christmas  other than at around this point in December “my heart hurts” That sounds rather somber..perhaps even a little dramatic. But it is a physical feeling,a lump in my throat … Continue reading

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Crackers and Peas.

Today Evan and I went out for lunch, it was our home-school “Christmas dinner”  I encourage Evan to try new places to try to prevent rigid routines,however as it was a treat he got to choose wherever he liked. He chose … Continue reading

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Back to the future….

Last night I had just sat down hoping to catch the end of “Master chef the professionals” and eat my supper(nothing fancy just some eggs-scrambled with ketchup..)when I became aware of a noise. I muted the t.v and listened. It … Continue reading

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Charity….

When Evan was a baby I met a woman with a son the same age at toddler group,she had a severely autistic teenage daughter. It was not until after Evan was diagnosed and I had lived with autism  that I thought … Continue reading

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365 days later

It is now a year since I removed Evan from  school and decided to teach him myself. Keeping track of the countless things Evan has achieved in the last 12 months has been almost impossible and perhaps the only thing that has been difficult about … Continue reading

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I lied..It is not okay.

I think the worst part of Evan having autism for me has been the fact that I find it really hard to be honest even with those closest to me.  To the outside world I cope, I am very relaxed about the … Continue reading

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Foot prints.

2007   Once the nursery had voiced their concerns things moved very quickly. The health visitor came, a referral was made and a week later Evan was being put through his paces by a peaditrician. At the end of that first appointment, which had lasted several hours and … Continue reading

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Ice melts.

This morning Grandma arrived at 7am to have breakfast with us before taking Evan to Penrith for the “Earlybird” swim. Evan was sat up eating his Weetoes,when he covered his nose and said his head hurt. I was making fresh juice, using … Continue reading

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Fiat Panda

Evan has been talking a great deal recently about when he gets himself a wife. He has decided he will be around 30years old and the wife will be one of the “blonde sort” they will live in America,have children and a dog.  We  have had lengthy … Continue reading

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Lego, lego everywhere, yet not a brick to build with.

 Today, armed with 4 soft paint brushes in various sizes,hot soapy water,spray polish and several cloths I spent eight and a half hours helping to clean and re-design Lego city. I am yet to shower or dress. It was of course no surprise … Continue reading

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